a family is expected to fulfill the material needs of the household and major economic decisions (e.g.
buying car, banking, etc) and the mother of the family is expected to do the housekeeping (e.g. daily
cooking & cleaning, and raising the children). Buying groceries can be a shared task, or they the
mother might plan and the father might execute. Taking kids to school activities can also be a
shared activity; if the father has a car, he is the person most likely to do that. Otherwise, the mother
may take kids to school. To shop for kids' clothing, be present at parent-teacher meetings, and to
maintain the children's health are also mostly in the woman's domain, although some fathers today
have gotten involved in those responsibilities as well. The last word in the discipline of the children
most likely is the father’s. The kitchen belongs to the woman, or rather she belongs to it despite the
fact that she might also be working outside home. When the husband comes home, the food should
be ready so that the family has dinner together sitting around the table. Eating dinner as a family is
almost a ritual for Armenian families and family members do their best to be at home for dinner.
Weddings
Weddings are a ritual. The process begins when the man and woman make a decision to further
their relationships. The man’s immediate family (parents, grandparents, and often the uncles and
aunts) visit the woman’s house to ask for permission from the woman’s father for the relationship to
continue and hopefully prosper. Once permission is granted by the father, the man gives the woman
a “promise ring” or “engagement ring” to make it official. To celebrate the mutual family
agreement, the woman’s family opens a bottle of Armenian cognac. Most families choose to have a
semi-large engagement party to recognize the fact. The girl’s family is the one who plans, organizes
and pays for the party. There is very little involvement with the man’s family. When the man and
the woman decide that they are ready to marry, the wedding preparation starts.
The wedding day begins at the home of the bride where the groom, relatives, and best man visit the
family. They bring the bride’s dress and gifts to congratulate the bride’s family on the occasion, to
dress the bride and to take the bride and the groom to the church. The gifts are arranged on a platter
which a male relative from the groom’s side carries above his head. The group plays loud music and
starts dancing in front of the building before entering the home. When the bride is dressed, the
groom and the relatives spend some time with the family and then they take the bride o the church
for the wedding ceremony where the priest blesses the marriage. Once the prayer has concluded, the
couple slides wedding bands on each others left hand. After the ceremony, the guests go to a
restaurant or a hall where they celebrate the wedding with music, food and dancing. Relatives give
gifts to the bride and groom, and close friends also come up with gifts. Colleagues usually gather
money and buy one thing for the family. Sometimes they ask what the future family might need.
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