Chapter 7.Doing things with words 169
In a communicative interaction, participants want to be acknowledged by
others. They claim a specific identity as they want to be seen in a specific way,
and thus they project a specific image of themselves. This interactional identity
is commonly called face (where the most visible part of a person stands meto-
nymically for the whole person and his or her identity).
In communicative interaction, we seek to establish and keep our face, not
lose it. We hope that our wants and feelings are appreciated by the people we
are talking to. We want to be liked and to feel good when interacting with
others. In the majority of cases, we also hope to convey that our conversational
partners should feel good about themselves, too. To do so, we use positive and
negative politeness strategies, i.e. we say a bit more to signal our appreciation of
the other’s “face” wants.
Let us now have a look at the use of such strategies in conversation for
either coming closer (“social accelerating”) or distancing (“social braking”). At
the beginning of a conversation, we might use ritual phrases like How are you,
Nice to see you, and so on to show our interest in the other person and thus to
establish a mutual basis for the present interaction. We signal to each other that
the channel is open and we want to communicate. During this “phatic” phase
of the interaction, we might engage in a little small talk about things like the
weather, sports, or even politics, topics that are relatively neutral as to the wants
and feelings of both partners. These “safe topics” are not too important as far as
the topic of conversation is concerned, but they are all the more important to
establish a mutual basis for interaction.
However, most interactions do not focus on “safe topics” only. One basic
reason for taking part in interactions is to convey to others what we think and
what we want (the other) to do. Every “less safe” speech act that is directed
towards a hearer might threaten his or her face, no matter whether we use
informative or obligative acts. When carrying out obligative speech acts, for
example, we want to do something or want the other to do something for us. If
we do this by means of an explicit form such as the imperative as in (28a), we
use a direct speech act, i.e. we state our communicative intention openly and
directly. This might threaten the other’s right to autonomy. If we have the
feeling that a direct speech act might be perceived as a face threat by the hearer,
there is quite a wide range of implicit directives, which are indirect speech acts
as in (28b–e) from which we might select something appropriate and less
threatening to the other’s face.