A Taste of Portugal
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INVITING AND BEING INVITED
‘A boda ou batizado só vai quem foi convidado.’
(‘To a wedding or baptism only goes who is invited.’)
—Portuguese saying
In general, the Portuguese do not easily invite people that are
not part of their social circle of close friends and family. But
when you are invited to someone’s home, you can expect to
be treated in a genuinely hospitable manner and be offered
food and drink in abundance. The occasion and context of
the invitation usually determines the degree of formality.
Depending on the nature of the invitation, it is usually
appropriate to bring a gift to a dinner party or informal
get-together. This could be fl owers or chocolates for the
lady of the house, or a bottle of wine, port or liquor for the
male host. In general, the host
welcomes arriving guests, takes
their coat, jacket or hat and
introduces them to the other
guests. A personal introduction
may not be possible at a large
party or gathering. In this case,
it is acceptable for people to
introduce themselves.
Breaking the Ice
Even at private social events, the Portuguese tend to be
reserved at fi rst and mostly talk to those they know. They do
not easily socialise with people they have not been introduced
to. A formal introduction is thus not merely a formality,
but the best and often only way to meet people and make
contacts. If you have any contacts in Portugal prior to your
arrival, being invited to a social event by them is a perfect
opportunity to establish contacts, be they Portuguese or
other expatriates.
Dinner Parties
Before sitting down to eat, guests may be offered an aperitif
or cocktail. This gives the guests the opportunity to relax over
An invitation to a family dinner
will be much more informal than
a dinner party with colleagues or
business partners. If in doubt, ask
the host how you should dress.
Most Portuguese homes are
informal environments, and as
long as you are courteous and
use common sense, you will not
require any special knowledge
of etiquette.
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