But it wasn’t going to happen. As much as he wanted to head “back upward,”
George was finding it difficult. Back in late June he had written to his lover, Joan,
that he could not be with her since it was necessary that he undergo some kind of
“treatment” to learn to love properly—really love. Joan had come around to spend
a night with him in the squat, and, not wanting to mix his two lives, George had
ordered everyone out of his room. Now he felt terrible about it. He had been
helping countless strangers, but to learn “real love, giving love, Jesus-style love”
he would need to start again with just one person. It couldn’t be her since that
person had to be more innocent, less strong willed. He was sorry. But Jesus said:
“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me,” and that was what George was
doing. Really, despite appearances, the only marriage permitted to him was to
Jesus. If that happened, perhaps they could be together some day.
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Sylvia had woken up from tooth surgery at the dentist to find him sitting beside
her, and she was beginning to get a little freaked out.
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Clearly there was not going
to be any relationship for a while. He was leaving Tolmers Square so as not to
present any further problems. And the move down the road to 164 Drummond
Street had gotten him thinking.
“I have indeed been serving the Devil most of my life,” he wrote Joan in October.
Trying to help all the homeless and old people had not been led by true love and
had only done them harm. As with her, with them, too, he had just created false
hope, and it was time for him to stop. To do this he would need to follow the way
of Matthew 7:14: “Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth
unto life, and few there be that find it.” The “strait gate,” George now believed,
was honesty about one’s own self-recognition, “confession to one’s self of one’s
deepest selfish desires.” Before anything one had to be true to oneself. Then the
“narrow way” was to follow Jesus’ lead “along an easy, twisting, curved path of
love”—love for others. George wasn’t doing too well so far, he admitted. But he
had stopped going around to help an old lady, Mrs. Veneham, two or three weeks
before, and no longer popped in to Elisabeth Mansell’s SOS House. He hadn’t
communicated with Chrissy, who had been in the hospital, and didn’t even know
if she was still there. His progress was slow, like that of the White Knight in
Through the Looking-Glass, who kept falling off the chessboard to one side or the
other. Still, it was a beginning. He was being more selfish and taking things
easier. “Please return good for evil and pray for me,” he ended. “God helps those
who help themselves.”
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His fifty-second birthday came along on October 16. “I pray that you will permit
your soul to be restored,” Joan wrote him, understanding finally that she would
have to let go. “Dismiss your illusion…there are no such thoughts for you now.”
All the way from Grand Rapids, Michigan, his mother’s cousin, Lewis Florman,
wrote kindly, too, to wish him the very best of everything: “As Paul said ‘test the
spirit—hold fast to that which is good.’ Dig up that talent of yours and put it to
good use. The world is sorely in need of scientists who are not afraid of looking at