In addition to the widespread bombing, U.S. forces
sprayed defoliants and herbicides (harsh chemicals that kill
plants) on large sections of South Vietnam. “Air Force planes
sprayed 18 million gallons of herbicide containing dioxins
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Thousands of Vietnamese soldiers
from both the North and the South were
killed during the Vietnam War. The deaths of
loved ones took a terrible toll on the families
left behind. The Communist government of
North Vietnam sometimes made such loss
even more difficult for the survivors.
North Vietnamese leaders worried
that the people would lose their will to fight
if they knew the true cost of the war. For
this reason, they sometimes withheld
information about killed or wounded
soldiers from the men’s wives or parents.
The Communists also discouraged people
from talking about their fears or mourning
for their loved ones during the war. Instead,
they expected people to concentrate their
efforts on helping the North win.
In the following passage from
David Chanoff’s book Vietnam: A Portrait of
Its People at War, a North Vietnamese
woman named Nam Duc Mao remembers
the loss of her brother-in-law:
Starting in 1968, they began sending
men from our village to the South. If
someone didn’t want to go, he had his
rations cut off. My sister’s husband went. In
1970 my mother found out that he had
been killed. My mother was an officer of the
court, so she found out through friends of
hers in the government. She told me, but
neither of us was able to tell my sister. It
was too risky. Nobody was allowed to talk
about deaths or rumors of deaths, not until
the official death notification came from the
army. Up until then, if you talked about
things like this it was considered anti-state
[against the government], you were
undermining people’s morale. You would get
into trouble or be sent to jail.
But it was very hard, because
sometimes the wives didn’t hear officially for
years. But news would come indirectly that
somebody’s husband or son had been killed.
It would come from messages sent by
friends who were in the army or by other
soldiers from the village, or in some other
way. So sometimes a woman knew that her
husband was dead, but she couldn’t mourn
out loud or she and the rest of her family
would be in trouble with the police.
That’s why my mother and I couldn’t
tell my sister. But I tried to keep her from
hoping that he would come back. I
especially wanted her to move out of her
parents-in-law’s house. I tried to persuade
her to leave her husband’s family and to live
as if her husband were dead, even if she
didn’t know for sure that he was.
But I wasn’t successful. My sister told
me, “I’ll wait for my husband to come
home.” I’d say, “It could be a terribly long
time.”
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